Love/Sex/Relationship

Good afternoon oby ,
 I sent you a Dm 8weeks ago, that I will send you my story when I connected to one of your write ups, that helped me a lot that day, I mean it was a great motivation to even step out of bed, I waited to get really broken, so I can connect and relate well to the way I feel, or what I have been going to through, I don't know how to start, but I will start anyways, and would try not to make it very long , but basically my point is that AM TIRED OF TRYING...

    **I had my first boyfriend when I was 17, don't know if I was too young, or if I started too early, that's why I see all the hard lucks I see, He was like 6 years older than I was, I was happy in my own way even when I knew he used to see and have other girls, and It never bothered me, untill the day he told me what has stood to be a reoccurring Trend in my life and relationships with men, he clearly told me that  HE LIKES TALL,FAIR,SLIM AND CURVY GIRLS, THAT HE PREFERRED TO DATE MODELS, and all I did to was put my self together walk back into the house after he left, and asked myself what I was still doubt there, I felt really bad, lost my self confidence for a while and put my self back together, pulled away from him, he kept coming but he didn't know he lost me, and why, because when he said those things, he felt I would be too naive to understand him clearly, or that I would wrap my self around the first love syndrome, but as God would have it, I finally had admissions into school, went to a new environment and I was fine when I was able to regain a little self esteem...came back many years after, and says things like* let's start all over, until he graduates to asking me to marry him, that I am the only girl he can't disconnect with bla bla bla even untill last year, this same dark, average, chubby girl.

**2007  I started another relationship with a guy that rapes and beats me, almost every week or at most 2weeks intervals, and I was finally able to leave after HE BEATS ME AND STRIPS ME NAKED, HOW GOD CREATED ME in **a face me I face you compound**I was living at that time, and after that day I never saw him again till date, apart from an apology Facebook inbox message which I never replied in 2013..

***I felt I gave myself enough time,stayed till the August 2008 got into another relationship, I felt I worked on my self enough, and I enjoyed it while I was being used( don't want to get the whole details) but my boyfriend started seeing another girl and kept saying they are just friends, and they just talk, and I asked what's the intresting conversation that cannot go on with us or with me your girlfriend? For the first and last time he slapped me, and then I just had a conviction in my spirit that something was not right , and when it finally bursted, All HE SAID TO ME IS THAT SHE WAS A VIRGIN, AND I WAS NOT😀 I was the one that was good for moral,financial, and all the support he ever needed, I was the one that had to go through all the shits, and then the least things as to guide me through assignments, he couldn't do and wasn't there for me, the height of it was when he started telling people that my mum begged him to marry me, and i bought him a gold neck piece to tie him down😀 How would you explain that?

****2010 I had another one, I met him so broken emotionally, not relationship sense, but with the 
things that were going on with him, he was almost dropping out of school, because of the issues he had, I stayed with him, comforted him,encouraged him, he was always traveling from Akwa Ibom to  calabar to attend lectures, and I told him to stay with me🙈( maybe I was wrong ) and then he finally got back, was healed, and got better even financially, he used to buy me gifts and was such a good boyfriend, till the devil told him he was getting too comfortable with me and he was being such and good boy, he started flirting with this girl, and it grew to a semi relationship, his friend was the one that told me about it, I asked my boyfriend and he said it was never true, he started getting distracted from school again, and started getting broke again, one day he came back all messed up, and told me he got into a fight, only for me to know later on that the reason for that fight was this same girl, another time he comes back and tells me he has lost his phone, I gave him the Samsung Cuby he got for me when the going was good😀 and guess what he did? HE GAVE IT TO THE OTHER GIRL, IT GOT WORST WHEN HE SOLD MY NECK PIECE TO GET HER A BAG, and when I found out, I knew I just had to let it go, and thats when  I started feeling like I  have a bad omen😱 this girl in question turned a pain in my flesh, tells people am after her man, and even sends people to set me up to beat me even in another man's country even years after, the guy in question goes around to tell people that I stole his 250k, Can it get any better for me?
**** I crashed down, picked the pieces of my life together again, just around the time I was about to move to a new environment , in 2011 thought I should give it another try, this time to a guy that is not from my place( state of origin ) and in just a short period of time, I was exposed threats from another girl he was seeing but an older girl, and was instigated by a bestie I felt I had at had at that time 😀, and the guy was obviously not bothered about it, KEPT GOING BACK TO HIS OLDER GIRL, AND THE THREATS NEVER STOPED, So I decided to leave

**** But then I know someone would ask, why don't you just chill and forget about men?The point is, I always prayed to God since I was just 11years old to make me marry so early not because I had a reason then( because I was very young) but when I added a few more years I had a reason, so I can raise kids, I wanted to have so many kids bacause my mum never had a lot of us, I am the first , and then it took my mum 11good years to conceive and have  my kid sister😀 So I always gave my self a reason to try again👍


 **** Early, 2012 after the girl sent people to harass me, but they later turned my friends tho😀 I got, attracted to this guy in my class that was transferred from another school, I got attracted to him because he was intelligent and encouraged me about a particular course I was not doing well at all, along the line we became study partners, and grew into lovers, I became his kid sisters worst enemy, she just started hating me, and did everything within her power to either irritate me or to get the brother to leaves me, and it finally worked, because all of a sudden, HE STARTED BEING TRIBALISTIC, SAYING HE DOES NOT KNOW IF HIS MOTHER WILL BE COMFORTABLE WITH ME BACAUSE AM NOT A YORUBA GIRL😀 / HIS THE ONLY SON😀*** I kept believing that saying* it can only get better**

**** I was down again as usual, and confided in the 2 friends that seemed close to me at that time, and then one of them was fund of putting up my pictures on her DP, and a family friend of hers kept asking to talk to me and be my friend, on my birthday 2013, we officially became friends when he got my pin and wished me happy birthday, we got taking and he wanted something serious😀( like they say) I decided to give it another try, by MAY we of that year we started a trail date, He showed me his best part till I went home on holidays by summer, and I was so excited, and just at the time I felt like I was happy, he stopped picking my calls like he used to, I knew something had changed, all of a sudden, a man that used to get excited talking to me all the time, went mute.. Even when I do the calling , he sluggishly picks up and tells me his busy and will call back later,and He never does, and went worst and NEVER PICKED UP MY CALLS AGAIN. I ran to my friend, she called him, her elder sister called him but he never gave any of them any proper response, and then after 3weeks, he sends me a long message and tells me I have *pride,ego,I don't have patience, am not his kind of girl, am rushing him, AND HE ENDS IT WITH HE WASNT READY FOR A RELATIONSHIP😀 But at that point I asked my self if I asked him out? Or I thought of the things I did that were out of the regular or ordinary, I also thought If I had asked him to marry me without my knowledge😀😀, at this point I decided that I will just sign out of the whole boyfriend, relationship thoughts, before the end of the year,he came around again, apologized and swore he didn't know what came over him, and for the first time in my entire life, I mean in all the relationships I ever had went  back to him, he promised me heaven and earth, promised to make up for all that went wrong,but did the WORST, after he lost his job, while waiting for a resumption date of the next job, he asked me to borrow him some money to travel to Abuja to hustle, I did, and even told him I got it from someone to give to him, to be on the safe side, but guess what he went to see a girl, unfortunately for me, he told the girl that his Xgf has been begging him and throwing her self back at him, and then the whole time, he steals time to talk to me, and then there is this time I called and then the girl picked up, speaking to me like she knows me** AND SHE SAYS, WHY ARE TOU THROWING YOURSELF AT A MAN THAT DOESNT WANT YOU, I HAVE SEEN YOUR PICTURES, YOUR A BEAUTIFUL GIRL, MOVE ON AND GET ANOTHER MAN, AND STOP HARASSING US, AND THE NEXT THING I HEAR AT THE BACKGROUND IS BEBE NO TALK AGAIN😀 I felt like running mad, I was in another man's country, I could not find my self in Abuja, even if I was in Nigeria, or even in Abuja, how would I get to where they were, I called him over 100times but he never responded, I was able to get calm sleep off and after 4 days HE CALLS ME AND SAYS, that was just a little misunderstanding👍 We can work it through😀

   ****2014 feb I met a well grown man, and we were just friends that used to talk about every thing,never thought of anything sexual or intimate with him, and on the 1st of March he proposed to me,(funny I know) and on phone, I met him when he was about to leave for another country, I was comfortable with talking to him about anything maybe because I felt he was so matured, and then when he proposed to me I laughed it through, on my birthday he made another one and even told my friends that knew about him, on a video call, they started making plans of engagement party I didn't know about, I only knew later because it was supposed to be a surprise, but then again, it went down the drain this time because my good friends around just felt like telling him how bad a girl I have been my entire life😀

  **** Nov 2014 I got connected back to an old friend, we got taking, we were far from each other, but the communication spirit was wonderful, I didn't like him that much at first, because he always talked about asking people about me, and no one seems to tell him anything bad, so my fear was, someday someone who just feels like saying some shit about me walks up to you and says things that itches your ear, then boom we go, I moved passed those thoughts,and got a little more flexible with him, and then the same girl he had a fling with some time ago, who knows me, according to him never said anything bad about me, all of a sudden says something bad then, and he starts acting based in that, that's misbehaving,( he gets to Nigeria and tells me I don't need to come and see him if I feel I should not have sex with him, he can't have a girlfriend he can't have sex with😀) and then the next time  *** HE SAYS HE DOES NOT KNOW THE ATTRACTION HE HAS WITH ME, HE STIRS AT ME AND NOTHING ATTRACTS HIM😀*** it can only get better.

***The whole time I have never discussed my previous relationship with a new boyfriend, I keep it and it sucks me deep, so I decided to air out this time to a random male friend, that we randomly chat, after he tried to make advances at me, and he goes all churchy, He goes like all the guys I ever had never had Christ In them, and then he preaches to me, gets really spiritual,and in my head am like, who ever will end up with this man is such a lucky girl, and then by April 2015, on a random day, he pops the please let's date shit, bla bla bla,  I tell him am not ready, and he keeps preaching to me how I should not let mp past define me, and then I give him a try,and I seriously don't know where to classify him right now. Few weeks back to Nigeria, He turns to what I can't explain really, a man that preaches sex before marriage, now wants sex, and he always wants it in his car, sometimes drives down infront of my fathers compound and tells me to have sex with him  just around ( me at 26, could this be adventure ) the first time he takes me to his house, he literally sneaks me into the house( a 33 year old man) which explains a lot, a man that swears his irritated with men that ask women for money, all of a sudden ask for money directly and indirectly, the one time I borrowed the least as 10k he bluntly refused to payback, and then when ever he is around me he switches his phone off, and carries just a small Nokia touch light phone and never picks his calls😀 am sure his showing me respect😀 And then I noticed  a similar behavior in a previous relationship, he never calls again, and then if I call him, He says I will call you back, am busy, and never calls back,  after a lot of complain or nagging as men would call it, he tries to sit up, by calling in the morning, for not more than 10seconds tho😀 and then in the night too, like am an office he signs in a time book when he resumes in he morning and signs out when his going home😀 it gets worst that am in the same town with him and I don't see him for over 2months, I call him when I got in to some trouble and wanted  someone to talk to and he was never available, and then I then I do my usual, I put my self together and move ahead😀😀  so I waste another 5 months on my life 🙌

**** Around the time I wanted someone to talk to, I started taking to another make friend I was always very skeptical about talking to him, even before I met this other guy, I tell him every thing going on with me, relationship wise and otherwise, everything that was happening to me at that time, I told him and he was a good friend who was so helpful, we started making video calls, before he goes to work, and soon as he returns, we start talking,about random things basically, our lives, his experiences, mine and the connection with this person was different from any other connection I have ever had, but then again, after a while just about the time he was about to return back home, our communication level drops** He Begins to bargain indirectly for his return and how I have to cope with him talking to a lot of people and all that, ** makes it sound like am some possessive, over inquisitive, or a bug, am far from that😀*** he gets back and then I give him some space cos I was not expecting much either, and he just kept coming and wouldn't let me be, the tempo Kees rising up and then finally  he gets back to his real self, starts getting more closer and I ask my self, was he not comfortable with every other person he was seeing or hanging out with?? We decided to give ourselves a shot, as soon as he goes back to work place, after the first week of the emotional hype, communication drops again, a little attitude here and there, all of a sudden the things we used to gist and laugh are no more, nothing really exciting again, the call level is almost becoming the sign in/sign out of office type, I can boldly say that the video call we both used to get excited about happened just once since Jan, when I ask for it, it seems like am asking for too much, he does not need to say it to me,but the act is all over him, he starts complaining of how am too suspicious, when ever something comes up am not comfortable with, and then the communication goes down and each day,  and on the 12/02/2016 we talk about it, ** HE SAYS : I AM CONSTRAINED BY THE INVISIBLE LINE OF RALATIONSHIP, AND NOT FRIENDSHIP, HE THINKS I SUSPECT THAT WHEN HE IS NOT TALKING TO ME, HE IS TALKKNG TO ANOTHER GIRL, and THE NEXT DAY HE GOES LIKE** HE HAS SPOKEN TO HIS PARENTS ABOUT OUR RELATIONSHIP, THAT HE HAS NOT HAD THIER SUPPORT YET, THATS WHY HE IS BEING CALM, you can imagine that, which simply means, I am at the mercy of the support of his parents😀  plus I get to wonder, if I had a man we talked about every thing and anything and then all of a sudden, he chooses what he says to you, or says nothing at all, apart from, how are you?how was your day? And it goes on like that in that manner, so do I have something wrong with me to think that he is obviously talking to someone,or enjoys conversations with another person( intimate or not, or what ever it is called)??
 So now I say to my self in the space of 10 years, I keep 10 relationships, and then they all go down, out of 10 of them it's just 2 of those guys that have not asked for my forgiveness and all of sorts, or tried to get back to me, or asked for another chance and all of that, is it that am POSSESSED? Or is it just BADLUCK? Or what exactly is it wrong with me?
Does it mean that I have a bad attitude they all come and see, and leave, but if so why do meat of them come back afterwards?

Is it that God in Heaven is not seeing all of these things happening to me?

I see men stand in for thier women when they are in trouble, but I have never just had that kind of luck 😀
So I have consoled my self with Fate that I AM THAT GIRL THAT SURVIVES EVERY ONE, BUT NO ONE SURVIVES ME..
 Please keep me Anonymous in what ever platform you decide to share this, but try and let me see people's comment and all, I can stand even the ones who would throw stones😀

I just want a little closure, that I have not had in all of these people I have met, with people's comment and banters I will have closure🙌


Sent from my iPhone/

Simplified meaning of TRUST

I'm here pretending to listen to what she's saying...rephrase, I was actually paying attention to all she was saying till she struck a nerve and here I'm, lost in my thoughts...
You know, most times we go through the ups&downs for some reasons I've come to realize. Going down the memory lane, when it's time for me to go to bed, most times I jump into the bed, some other times, I just slide onto the bed. Whichever way I chose, I still got on the bed and that's the whole point.

Okay, let's try something different, let's leave the comfort of our homes and everything in it. Let's say we went to our friends' place or a function, when we've reached the venue and exchanged pleasantries, we don't have to keep standing if there are chairs for people to sit down on...now, do we? But that's still not my point, when we get to the chairs we hope to sit on, knowing that they're all clean, don't we just majestically sit down?? So far, hope you've been honest with your answers. Yes, sitting down on some random chair is the point.

Let's try something even more different from the above. We all have phones, yes? If you don't, well, you have something you use in reading this post. What do we do with our phones? Emmmh, I know we all thought of calls and messages but that's not the point, calls&messages are so redundant so I'll try another. Let's say we all have this friend that always calls or text to tell us what's popping, and that day, s/he was like, "you need to go on facebook/instagram/twitter blablabla, A and B are in a relationship or A&B just got married or A&B got into a fight" and the list goes on....if A&B are people we know, won't we get our phones/devices and log on to any of the social app to see for ourselves??? Hope we're being honest and truthful about the answers.

Okay, a quick question, how many of us sleep hoping to not wake up? Oh yes, we all sleep hoping to wake up stronger and refreshed, yeah? What about when we drive on the road(or walk)....do we get scared that the road would become weak and open, then swallow us just like we see in movies and news when earthquakes happen?  Do we get scared that we may not make it to our destinations because our legs will get weary? Perhaps, we get scared that our cars are not fully fueled....now that's the point, 'not fully fueled'. But we're cool as long as we fueled our tanks to the brim, yeah?

Then I smiled....not knowing what she's been talking about, I told her..."babe you just inspired me" she was like, "What's wrong with this girl again!"  We were talking about how things were so difficult and how we are almost losing it cos things ain't just going the way we want it to. So many trials, failures, pains, hurt, resentments, blablabla. And suddenly, I went blank....

I was thinking to myself, if I can trust my legs to take me to wherever I wanted to go, and the roads built by men to be strong enough to carry me...lol, you have no idea how much I weigh. Anyways, if I could trust my mouth to make sounds or talk whenever I wanted to....why is it so difficult to trust God then???

Yeah, I can answer that now;

It's easier to trust God when all is going well than to trust Him when everything seems to be in shambles. It's easier being happy when we have everything we could ever wish for but get saddened when the situation changes just by 5%.

You see, if we can trust the roads we walk/drive on, the beds we lie on, the chairs we sit on even though they don't belong to us, our phones/devices to give us the latest gists in town, our washing machines to wash our clothes and not to spoil them, the blenders to blend whatever we want, the doctor to perform a successful surgery, the pastor to preach a nice sermon, the choiristers&instrumentalists to always deliver, the tap to allow water flow out of it, the mirror to  show us our perfect reflections, the exercises to help us keep fit or lose weight...why then is it so difficult to trust the maker of all those things, the giver of lives and talents, the creator that was never created,do we even know what that means?

If everything goes the way we all want it to go, then where's the glory in that? I mean, it's easier forgetting that if not for God, it wouldn't go smoothly. Once in a while, we experience these things so that at the end, all glory would be returned to the one who made it possible.
If there are no obstacles, how then would we tell a story and make it a testimony???...even in movies, things don't go as planned just to give it a sweet ending.  If we're so keen to complain about things when they don't go the way we want it, we should also try complaining about things always going the way we want it....no? Why not? Because that's the way it's meant to be? Of course not, my dear.
If we're apt to ask, "God why the headache//why is there no food today//where's the promotion for this year// why won't my boss increase my salary this month//why did I fail this subject that I've studied so hard for//why does he have a new car and I don't//why am I having pimples again, I thought we already settled that????????

Dearies, don't you think we should also complain when things are going *too well, let's try this,

"God why do you love me so much//why again am I alive today//kai, God another food//God these blessings are too much, I don't want!//God, I'm tired of all these goodies, please give them to someone else//God, why does my hubby always shower me with gifts?//God my children are too beautiful and healthy, God why?//God why have you chosen to embarrass me with your love?//God why is it that I'm yet to experience any road accident, the people that have experienced it, do they have two heads?//oh no....another job offer/promotion, God it's too much!!! That plane that crashed, why wasn't I in it, I'm tired of your endless love and protection!!!!"
Also try this style,
God, I'm alive, no pain, there's food, shelter, clothing, water....please, it's too much, I don't want again!!!// God, so you want all these kidnappers to notice me and my family, please make me poor!//God do you know I saw a blind person and I was wondering how it feels, please take my eye-sight for a year, I want to experience blindness....I could go on and on.

 We should learn to trust God with our problems....we should also be thankful for the things we fail to acknowledge and realize that we have. Can God trust you with trouble? Are you the one to waver at the slightest inch of discomfort?
(Please read Isaiah 43:1-3, Philippians 4:6)

Hope y'all are having a wonderful new year so far.....even if things may seem a bit unsettled, trust God. Don't waver, don't worry, don't compromise, don't disbelieve.....just trust GOD.

Thanks for reading....hope to see you soon, lots of love!!
HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!!
HAPPY 2016....this year, you will recover all that which the canker worms have eaten in Jesus' name, Amen!!!!
God bless you❤

AUTUMN in the AIR part 1

My Autumn Look

Hello readers!! I'm so excited I'm blogging today, I've been extra busy with school and all. I know it seems easy but it's not!! Well, what matters is that I'm here now(for awhile though)

So today I'll be showing my autumn look...I dressed to church in this outfit, so comfy and elegant...

Hope you love the mild goth makeup by me!!

Coat; Stradivarius

Jumpsuit; Zara

Boot; Stradivarius

Bag; Zara

Hope you enjoyed your scroll through my blog....see you soon

From Scott's Desk...the Women Categories

Hey People, this article is from one of my readers. I told y'all that I won't be posting my originals except when I'm free.
So here, Scott has an interesting article for the ladies..I may not agree with everything he's saying but I do understand where he's coming from. I laughed most of the time.

From Scott's desk; Women all over the world fall roughly into different categories. While most women have features of a particular group, others share qualities of more than one. 

1. The Truly Engaged
Trust me, if you see them you'll know. Most of them, if not all, always go around with their rings. While chatting with her, she notices when you're 5km away to touching the soft spot of her heart,
immediately no matter how cute you are, her replies are no longer frequent. She hardly reply you. Most times, she changes her DP flashing her engagement ring. That's telling you, Back Off! I respect that!

2. The Heart Broken
These set of ladies are everywhere.. Most times, the reason is because they look out for the wrong things in a man. Their friends are not helping matters too- they all discuss guys with the latest cars, wears, houses; MUNDANE THINGS! This lady would see a decent guy though struggling/hustling to survive but comfortable, who loves her and would want something serious with her and what does this girl do? She dates him while cheating on him with Mr. Big-boy or maybe she didn't date him but rather friend-zoned him. The hustling guy discovers, leaves her. The Big boy has other girlfriends, she discovers, feel cheated and walks away. Now, she feels she's heart broken(it's nemesis, my dear) Worse, she comes to the social media and say, 'All Guys are the same' Very funny! Miss Heart Broken becomes repulsive towards guys. Her past experience was painful...Well, whose fault?

My Autumn look....coming soon. Stay tuned

3. Single And Welcoming
She is always nice and kindhearted You will not hear her say harsh words to guys. She just wants a guy who would love her and not toy with her heart, perhaps Godly. I guess, parental influence has its toll on her.

4. Relationship COMPLICATED
This type often have her standards she has created for her ideal man and trust me, she is no where close to that. You see her most of the times walking down with different guys and
you wonder, This chick has a long list of suitors. Yes, she has. Most times, she has a not-so-nice temperament. (Whether pretty or not). She has a
bad temper and doesn't know how to curb it. On social networks, quote her and she rants heaven and earth, calling you names. That kind of girl is a
bomb going to a guy's life to happen; the plenty guys sees it and stylishly walks away. She doesn't understand. She even goes spiritual (That's not the way tho), be patient with others. Start sticking your neck for "strangers". Quit selfishness.

5. Middle Of Nowhere

This is not being the previous. This kind of girl is mostly a "girl girl". She is just growing but wants that to happen in a hurry. She might have a "good body" but she is still a "child". Sincerely,
they are in every social network. That's the kind four friends in one hostel are sleeping with. She is just a Learner. Hers is a step above being complicated. Have you watched the movie, LOST?
She is Lost. Her type on Social network always use very "strong" and offensive language when angry. She hates the word, "Love". Some of them believe in love but in a nonexistent form. At 20,
she is FULLY AWARE, if you know what I mean.


My Advice: Quit all those sexual involvements you call Relationship by all means.

6. The Single And Desperate

I do encourage this set of ladies to keep being focused by being and developing themselves and making good use of their time preparing to be a wife indeed. You see, those that revolt my candid words believe they can force a guy to love them and get into relationships with them through indulging in the following:

A. Trapping him with pregnancy.
B. Going unclad with an aim of enticing.
C. Going out with married men.
D. Enticing their friend's boyfriend etc.
The desperate type on Social network don't have patience. They discover you're upcoming and visionary, they delete you, fast! No time! Desperation blindfolds! Sister Patience, be patient!

I think Scott is trying to say that these type of girls don't have  time to waste on guys who aren't already made....lol

7. The Flirty Flirts

I believe, you need an extra skill to detect this category of girls...these girls would drain the precious life out of your "battery". You can call them "Delilah" because they're subtle and cunning. They may not necessarily ask for cash but they get so affectionate with you, making you think you've won gold...She laughs easily; rolls on you simply; smiles sweetly; care-free and homely, BUT her heart wanders widely.

....The End....

Article by Micheal Scott

The subtitle of each category is just funny especially *middle of no-where*...I mean, who says that, lol.

I asked him to send a picture of himself so that we can get to see the face behind this funny article....he's yet to send it, lol.

Hope you enjoyed the article.....hope to see you soon!

AUTUMN in the AIR part 2

PS:  this was blogged awhile ago, just never posted it. 

Hello Everyone...hope y'all are having a nice day.
Here's my next autumn look, I dressed like this to church....hope you like the outfit plus my new hairstyle, unfortunately, it didn't last up to 3 days(I wasn't brave enough to carry it to school lol)

Here, enjoy...

Coat; Stradivarius

Every other wear is Zara

Hope you enjoyed your stroll through this post...see you soon.

Have a lovely week!

Top Essentials a MAN should have

Hello people, it's been awhile...I know. I was down for about a week or so but I'm better, stronger and healthier now. But then, school has started and I have to study and pass plus there's really a lot going on in my life right now so I will be posting once in awhile. But not to worry, there are a couple of articles sent to me by my loyal and lovely readers so I'll always publish them if I find them fit.

So today, we will be talking about the essentials a proper man should have. A few of my readers said that I don't involve guys as much as I do for girls, emmmh; but I'm a Girl...lol. Okay back to the topic, a *proper man.....I don't know if proper is the best word but it would do for now. Would have used *responsible but these days,  that word is so redundant, so, *proper would do for now!

Before I go any further, I would like to thank those of you who wrote me concerning me blogging and how you've missed my posts, I'm grateful cos I probably wouldn't have thought of blogging today if not for those messages so THANK YOU! Again, back to the topic, I would like to remind us that there's a difference between a boy and a man. Here, I'm not even trying to talk about age differences...it all has to do with the mind and we would get to the details in my next post.

So ladies and gentlemen, the qualities below should be what you should look out for in a man, handsome face and nice swag won't feed you. These days, ladies fail to look beyond the present, as far as you're buying assorted biscuits and drinks, you're the man! Smh but not to worry, all these would change after you're done reading this article....I hope so!

•  WISDOM and CASH;  aka common sense, the ability to discern or judge what is true. We all should know that common sense is not "common". This is why a guy would still be living in his friend's or parents' house without any tangible job or investment but as soon as he hits this jackpot with $5000, he buys a car of $4500 and squanders the remaining money on social life. OMG...like how dumb could it get?  Girls these days prefer the flashy life, so guys want  to keep up. Even the bible made us to understand that "wisdom and money can get you almost anything but only wisdom can save your life" Eccl 7:12. So ladies, choose carefully....Guys, be wise!
  
• RESPECT; Some guys lack respect. They have no regard for anyone including you. They think with money, you're at their beck&call....some ladies don't mind, provided that you care for their needs and all, then you're good to go. Sorry, not for me!!! And this is how he would disgrace you in front of your friends and family. You think he would change when you two get married and kids are involved, hell-to-the-freaking-NO!!! Boo, he would hit you even in front of the kids and send you home if you ever challenge him, after all, you never did while you two were dating/courting so why should you do so now??
• GOOD-LOOKING/LOOKS; Now, I'm not talking about a handsome face or nice body and all. An example; You're from a humble background, a responsible home and you want to bring back a tout with sagged jeans, open shirt, tattoos even on face, all types of jewelries for your parents to see and approve. What is this, Christmas goat? Who says looks don't matter, it does! Look for a responsible man, not someone you would be walking with and you would be restless because of the policemen around. Get someone you know you would be proud of if your son grew up to become just like him.
  
• SPEECH, ATTITUDE and MANNERS; If you're  lacking these, we can never be friends, not now- not tomorrow, it's just a deal breaker mehn. Let's be real, if a guy lacks manners and has a very bad attitude, he would miss so many good opportunities in life. I can't deal, it just doesn't go well for me and those kind of guys. The worst of all, you can't change them! They are always very stubborn and think they know all...you can change someone's looks but not these set of people. They were born this way, this is their destiny....lol, it's no that serious.
• CHARISMA and PERSONALITY; I'm usually attracted to anyone with strong personality and charisma. I already blogged about it but in this case, I was referring to the ladies. Click here to read Essentials a Lady must have
•  KNOWLEDGE OF THE WORD OF GOD; Finally, He doesn't believe in God? Too bad.  I don't think any believer would want to end up in this path. I don't think I should make more emphasis on this.
  

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My CASUAL SUMMERY LOOK 2

Hey...hope y'all are doing great. So  today, I will be blogging my look from 2 days ago. Went for shopping with my friends. The weather was terrible, it was so hot and sunny but the pictures came out good. I want to thank my awesome photographer, Jossy for the nice pictures and some poses which I'll never upload(they were hilarious) 90% of the time, we laughed, the poses were something else, you will be glad I didn't post them. You can book an appointment with her(via instagram @josephine_gbayan)...lol
I hate to announce that I won't be blogging in the next two days cos I would be very busy but don't worry, would come back with more great and juicy topics(you can also inbox me on possible topics you may want me to blog about, my contact is below)

Here are the pictures, enjoy your scroll!

I Love this head wear

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Occasion; Casual/ Day wear

Shoes; from Zara

Top; from Zara

Blue purse/bag; from Zara

Shorts; from Stradivarius

Head-wear; from Stradivarius

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