Wednesday, 6 January 2016

Simplified meaning of TRUST

I'm here pretending to listen to what she's saying...rephrase, I was actually paying attention to all she was saying till she struck a nerve and here I'm, lost in my thoughts...
You know, most times we go through the ups&downs for some reasons I've come to realize. Going down the memory lane, when it's time for me to go to bed, most times I jump into the bed, some other times, I just slide onto the bed. Whichever way I chose, I still got on the bed and that's the whole point.
Okay, let's try something different, let's leave the comfort of our homes and everything in it. Let's say we went to our friends' place or a function, when we've reached the venue and exchanged pleasantries, we don't have to keep standing if there are chairs for people to sit down on...now, do we? But that's still not my point, when we get to the chairs we hope to sit on, knowing that they're all clean, don't we just majestically sit down?? So far, hope you've been honest with your answers. Yes, sitting down on some random chair is the point.
Let's try something even more different from the above. We all have phones, yes? If you don't, well, you have something you use in reading this post. What do we do with our phones? Emmmh, I know we all thought of calls and messages but that's not the point, calls&messages are so redundant so I'll try another. Let's say we all have this friend that always calls or text to tell us what's popping, and that day, s/he was like, "you need to go on facebook/instagram/twitter blablabla, A and B are in a relationship or A&B just got married or A&B got into a fight" and the list goes on....if A&B are people we know, won't we get our phones/devices and log on to any of the social app to see for ourselves??? Hope we're being honest and truthful about the answers.
Okay, a quick question, how many of us sleep hoping to not wake up? Oh yes, we all sleep hoping to wake up stronger and refreshed, yeah? What about when we drive on the road(or walk)....do we get scared that the road would become weak and open, then swallow us just like we see in movies and news when earthquakes happen?  Do we get scared that we may not make it to our destinations because our legs will get weary? Perhaps, we get scared that our cars are not fully fueled....now that's the point, 'not fully fueled'. But we're cool as long as we fueled our tanks to the brim, yeah?

Then I smiled....not knowing what she's been talking about, I told her..."babe you just inspired me" she was like, "What's wrong with this girl again!"  We were talking about how things were so difficult and how we are almost losing it cos things ain't just going the way we want it to. So many trials, failures, pains, hurt, resentments, blablabla. And suddenly, I went blank....
I was thinking to myself, if I can trust my legs to take me to wherever I wanted to go, and the roads built by men to be strong enough to carry me...lol, you have no idea how much I weigh. Anyways, if I could trust my mouth to make sounds or talk whenever I wanted to....why is it so difficult to trust God then???

Yeah, I can answer that now;
It's easier to trust God when all is going well than to trust Him when everything seems to be in shambles. It's easier being happy when we have everything we could ever wish for but get saddened when the situation changes just by 5%.
You see, if we can trust the roads we walk/drive on, the beds we lie on, the chairs we sit on even though they don't belong to us, our phones/devices to give us the latest gists in town, our washing machines to wash our clothes and not to spoil them, the blenders to blend whatever we want, the doctor to perform a successful surgery, the pastor to preach a nice sermon, the choiristers&instrumentalists to always deliver, the tap to allow water flow out of it, the mirror to  show us our perfect reflections, the exercises to help us keep fit or lose weight...why then is it so difficult to trust the maker of all those things, the giver of lives and talents, the creator that was never created,do we even know what that means?

If everything goes the way we all want it to go, then where's the glory in that? I mean, it's easier forgetting that if not for God, it wouldn't go smoothly. Once in a while, we experience these things so that at the end, all glory would be returned to the one who made it possible.
If there are no obstacles, how then would we tell a story and make it a testimony???...even in movies, things don't go as planned just to give it a sweet ending.  If we're so keen to complain about things when they don't go the way we want it, we should also try complaining about things always going the way we want it....no? Why not? Because that's the way it's meant to be? Of course not, my dear.
If we're apt to ask, "God why the headache//why is there no food today//where's the promotion for this year// why won't my boss increase my salary this month//why did I fail this subject that I've studied so hard for//why does he have a new car and I don't//why am I having pimples again, I thought we already settled that????????
Dearies, don't you think we should also complain when things are going *too well, let's try this,
"God why do you love me so much//why again am I alive today//kai, God another food//God these blessings are too much, I don't want!//God, I'm tired of all these goodies, please give them to someone else//God, why does my hubby always shower me with gifts?//God my children are too beautiful and healthy, God why?//God why have you chosen to embarrass me with your love?//God why is it that I'm yet to experience any road accident, the people that have experienced it, do they have two heads?//oh no....another job offer/promotion, God it's too much!!! That plane that crashed, why wasn't I in it, I'm tired of your endless love and protection!!!!"
Also try this style,
God, I'm alive, no pain, there's food, shelter, clothing, water....please, it's too much, I don't want again!!!// God, so you want all these kidnappers to notice me and my family, please make me poor!//God do you know I saw a blind person and I was wondering how it feels, please take my eye-sight for a year, I want to experience blindness....I could go on and on.


 We should learn to trust God with our problems....we should also be thankful for the things we fail to acknowledge and realize that we have. Can God trust you with trouble? Are you the one to waver at the slightest inch of discomfort?
(Please read Isaiah 43:1-3, Philippians 4:6)


Hope y'all are having a wonderful new year so far.....even if things may seem a bit unsettled, trust God. Don't waver, don't worry, don't compromise, don't disbelieve.....just trust GOD.

Thanks for reading....hope to see you soon, lots of love!!
HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!!
HAPPY 2016....this year, you will recover all that which the canker worms have eaten in Jesus' name, Amen!!!!
God bless you❤

Saturday, 5 December 2015

AUTUMN in the AIR part 1

My Autumn Look


Hello readers!! I'm so excited I'm blogging today, I've been extra busy with school and all. I know it seems easy but it's not!! Well, what matters is that I'm here now(for awhile though)

So today I'll be showing my autumn look...I dressed to church in this outfit, so comfy and elegant...

Hope you love the mild goth makeup by me!!































Coat; Stradivarius
Jumpsuit; Zara
Boot; Stradivarius
Bag; Zara

Hope you enjoyed your scroll through my blog....see you soon

From Scott's Desk...the Women Categories

Hey People, this article is from one of my readers. I told y'all that I won't be posting my originals except when I'm free.
So here, Scott has an interesting article for the ladies..I may not agree with everything he's saying but I do understand where he's coming from. I laughed most of the time.
From Scott's desk; Women all over the world fall roughly into different categories. While most women have features of a particular group, others share qualities of more than one. 

1. The Truly Engaged
Trust me, if you see them you'll know. Most of them, if not all, always go around with their rings. While chatting with her, she notices when you're 5km away to touching the soft spot of her heart,
immediately no matter how cute you are, her replies are no longer frequent. She hardly reply you. Most times, she changes her DP flashing her engagement ring. That's telling you, Back Off! I respect that!

2. The Heart Broken
These set of ladies are everywhere.. Most times, the reason is because they look out for the wrong things in a man. Their friends are not helping matters too- they all discuss guys with the latest cars, wears, houses; MUNDANE THINGS! This lady would see a decent guy though struggling/hustling to survive but comfortable, who loves her and would want something serious with her and what does this girl do? She dates him while cheating on him with Mr. Big-boy or maybe she didn't date him but rather friend-zoned him. The hustling guy discovers, leaves her. The Big boy has other girlfriends, she discovers, feel cheated and walks away. Now, she feels she's heart broken(it's nemesis, my dear) Worse, she comes to the social media and say, 'All Guys are the same' Very funny! Miss Heart Broken becomes repulsive towards guys. Her past experience was painful...Well, whose fault?
My Autumn look....coming soon. Stay tuned

3. Single And Welcoming
She is always nice and kindhearted You will not hear her say harsh words to guys. She just wants a guy who would love her and not toy with her heart, perhaps Godly. I guess, parental influence has its toll on her.

4. Relationship COMPLICATED
This type often have her standards she has created for her ideal man and trust me, she is no where close to that. You see her most of the times walking down with different guys and
you wonder, This chick has a long list of suitors. Yes, she has. Most times, she has a not-so-nice temperament. (Whether pretty or not). She has a
bad temper and doesn't know how to curb it. On social networks, quote her and she rants heaven and earth, calling you names. That kind of girl is a
bomb going to a guy's life to happen; the plenty guys sees it and stylishly walks away. She doesn't understand. She even goes spiritual (That's not the way tho), be patient with others. Start sticking your neck for "strangers". Quit selfishness.

5. Middle Of Nowhere

This is not being the previous. This kind of girl is mostly a "girl girl". She is just growing but wants that to happen in a hurry. She might have a "good body" but she is still a "child". Sincerely,
they are in every social network. That's the kind four friends in one hostel are sleeping with. She is just a Learner. Hers is a step above being complicated. Have you watched the movie, LOST?
She is Lost. Her type on Social network always use very "strong" and offensive language when angry. She hates the word, "Love". Some of them believe in love but in a nonexistent form. At 20,
she is FULLY AWARE, if you know what I mean.


My Advice: Quit all those sexual involvements you call Relationship by all means.

6. The Single And Desperate

I do encourage this set of ladies to keep being focused by being and developing themselves and making good use of their time preparing to be a wife indeed. You see, those that revolt my candid words believe they can force a guy to love them and get into relationships with them through indulging in the following:

A. Trapping him with pregnancy.
B. Going unclad with an aim of enticing.
C. Going out with married men.
D. Enticing their friend's boyfriend etc.
The desperate type on Social network don't have patience. They discover you're upcoming and visionary, they delete you, fast! No time! Desperation blindfolds! Sister Patience, be patient!

I think Scott is trying to say that these type of girls don't have  time to waste on guys who aren't already made....lol

7. The Flirty Flirts

I believe, you need an extra skill to detect this category of girls...these girls would drain the precious life out of your "battery". You can call them "Delilah" because they're subtle and cunning. They may not necessarily ask for cash but they get so affectionate with you, making you think you've won gold...She laughs easily; rolls on you simply; smiles sweetly; care-free and homely, BUT her heart wanders widely.
....The End....
Article by Micheal Scott
The subtitle of each category is just funny especially *middle of no-where*...I mean, who says that, lol.
I asked him to send a picture of himself so that we can get to see the face behind this funny article....he's yet to send it, lol.
Hope you enjoyed the article.....hope to see you soon!

Friday, 4 December 2015

AUTUMN in the AIR part 2

PS:  this was blogged awhile ago, just never posted it. 

Hello Everyone...hope y'all are having a nice day.
Here's my next autumn look, I dressed like this to church....hope you like the outfit plus my new hairstyle, unfortunately, it didn't last up to 3 days(I wasn't brave enough to carry it to school lol)

Here, enjoy...




































Coat; Stradivarius
Every other wear is Zara
Hope you enjoyed your stroll through this post...see you soon.
Have a lovely week!

Saturday, 26 September 2015

Top Essentials a MAN should have

Hello people, it's been awhile...I know. I was down for about a week or so but I'm better, stronger and healthier now. But then, school has started and I have to study and pass plus there's really a lot going on in my life right now so I will be posting once in awhile. But not to worry, there are a couple of articles sent to me by my loyal and lovely readers so I'll always publish them if I find them fit.

So today, we will be talking about the essentials a proper man should have. A few of my readers said that I don't involve guys as much as I do for girls, emmmh; but I'm a Girl...lol. Okay back to the topic, a *proper man.....I don't know if proper is the best word but it would do for now. Would have used *responsible but these days,  that word is so redundant, so, *proper would do for now!

Before I go any further, I would like to thank those of you who wrote me concerning me blogging and how you've missed my posts, I'm grateful cos I probably wouldn't have thought of blogging today if not for those messages so THANK YOU! Again, back to the topic, I would like to remind us that there's a difference between a boy and a man. Here, I'm not even trying to talk about age differences...it all has to do with the mind and we would get to the details in my next post.

So ladies and gentlemen, the qualities below should be what you should look out for in a man, handsome face and nice swag won't feed you. These days, ladies fail to look beyond the present, as far as you're buying assorted biscuits and drinks, you're the man! Smh but not to worry, all these would change after you're done reading this article....I hope so!
  •  WISDOM and CASH;  aka common sense, the ability to discern or judge what is true. We all should know that common sense is not "common". This is why a guy would still be living in his friend's or parents' house without any tangible job or investment but as soon as he hits this jackpot with $5000, he buys a car of $4500 and squanders the remaining money on social life. OMG...like how dumb could it get?  Girls these days prefer the flashy life, so guys want  to keep up. Even the bible made us to understand that "wisdom and money can get you almost anything but only wisdom can save your life" Eccl 7:12. So ladies, choose carefully....Guys, be wise!
  • RESPECT; Some guys lack respect. They have no regard for anyone including you. They think with money, you're at their beck&call....some ladies don't mind, provided that you care for their needs and all, then you're good to go. Sorry, not for me!!! And this is how he would disgrace you in front of your friends and family. You think he would change when you two get married and kids are involved, hell-to-the-freaking-NO!!! Boo, he would hit you even in front of the kids and send you home if you ever challenge him, after all, you never did while you two were dating/courting so why should you do so now??
  • GOOD-LOOKING/LOOKS; Now, I'm not talking about a handsome face or nice body and all. An example; You're from a humble background, a responsible home and you want to bring back a tout with sagged jeans, open shirt, tattoos even on face, all types of jewelries for your parents to see and approve. What is this, Christmas goat? Who says looks don't matter, it does! Look for a responsible man, not someone you would be walking with and you would be restless because of the policemen around. Get someone you know you would be proud of if your son grew up to become just like him.
  • SPEECH, ATTITUDE and MANNERS; If you're  lacking these, we can never be friends, not now- not tomorrow, it's just a deal breaker mehn. Let's be real, if a guy lacks manners and has a very bad attitude, he would miss so many good opportunities in life. I can't deal, it just doesn't go well for me and those kind of guys. The worst of all, you can't change them! They are always very stubborn and think they know all...you can change someone's looks but not these set of people. They were born this way, this is their destiny....lol, it's no that serious.
  • CHARISMA and PERSONALITY; I'm usually attracted to anyone with strong personality and charisma. I already blogged about it but in this case, I was referring to the ladies. Click here to read Essentials a Lady must have
  •  KNOWLEDGE OF THE WORD OF GOD; Finally, He doesn't believe in God? Too bad.  I don't think any believer would want to end up in this path. I don't think I should make more emphasis on this.

Hope you enjoyed this...lol
Have a lovely day....and see you soon!!!!


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Thursday, 30 July 2015

My CASUAL SUMMERY LOOK 2

Hey...hope y'all are doing great. So  today, I will be blogging my look from 2 days ago. Went for shopping with my friends. The weather was terrible, it was so hot and sunny but the pictures came out good. I want to thank my awesome photographer, Jossy for the nice pictures and some poses which I'll never upload(they were hilarious) 90% of the time, we laughed, the poses were something else, you will be glad I didn't post them. You can book an appointment with her(via instagram @josephine_gbayan)...lol
I hate to announce that I won't be blogging in the next two days cos I would be very busy but don't worry, would come back with more great and juicy topics(you can also inbox me on possible topics you may want me to blog about, my contact is below)

Here are the pictures, enjoy your scroll!




















I Love this head wear







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Occasion; Casual/ Day wear
Shoes; from Zara
Top; from Zara
Blue purse/bag; from Zara
Shorts; from Stradivarius
Head-wear; from Stradivarius

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