MARITAL RAPE; is it possible for a spouse to be raped while married?

Hello everyone...yes, it's me. I've been gone for a few weeks, okay I lied..a few months...emmmh, maybe a little bit over a year now. Yes over a year now😟.....what happened? I had to pause blogging cos I just couldn't keep up with school workload 😥 but thank God I'm on break now....let me hear you say YAAAAASSS!!!( lol, don't tell me you actually *yas'd)

So, what will we be talking about today..marital-spousal rape..this particular topic seems weird to me cos I'm not married and I know *most people would be like..."what does she know"...and I'll reply *most people saying, "a whole lot!"....lol, just kidding(no, I'm serious!). I didn't come up with this topic though, I asked people on my Facebook page to tell me a topic they would want me to blog about and this happened to be one of the topics..shout-out to Agbo Richard for coming up with this topic

What is RAPE? 

According to Wikipedia, "Rape is a type of sexual assault usually involving sexual intercourse or other forms of sexual penetration carried out against a person without that person's consent. The act may be carried out by physical force, coercion, abuse of authority, or against a person who is incapable of giving valid consent, such as one who is unconscious, incapacitated, has an intellectual disability or is below the legal age of consent"

There are over 10 types of rape which includes date rape, child rape, gang rape, spousal/marital rape, to name a few. Today we're interested in Marital-spousal rape....emmh marital rape? Is that even possible? We will see...

WHAT DO YOU THINK ABOUT MARITAL RAPE?

I will be using marital and spousal rape interchangeably, they both mean same thing.

Is it possible that you can be raped by your spouse while married? Weird yeah? I know...thought the same and I actually had a live video chat(on my instagram page) where I asked people if they think something like this exist and it seemed a bit surprising the responses I got(I screenshot some interesting ones, I uploaded a few). I also got to find out that most guys were opposing the notion as regards *marital rape...in contrast to the girls.  It seems it's mainly the women that have a better understanding when it comes to such sensitive topics or, maybe it's just cos they experience this the most...not surprising though.
Below are some of the screenshots...

What is MARITAL-SPOUSAL RAPE?

According to Wikipedia, "Marital rape (or spousal rape) is the act of sexual intercourse with one's spouse without the consent of the other spouse. It is a form of domestic violence and sexual abuse. Although it was once widely unrecognized by law and society as wrong or as a crime, it is now recognized as rape by many societies around the world..."
Below, some of my followers answered,

He further went on to state why most abused individuals may find it difficult to speak out

I know rape is not one sided but in this case, marital rape is mainly experienced by women but not exclusively. Coming from African background, most guys I asked a few questions concerning this topic seemed to believe it's impossible for a hubby to rape wifey since he already paid *bride-price(money or any other thing such as properties etc paid by groom and his family to the woman's family that he's about to be married to or may even have married her before payment...the former is more common)...they seem to have the mentality that since you already paid for her to be your wife then whatever you do to her isn't wrong especially when it comes to s*x...after all she's your wife!  Too bad, I know.

Could this be real, do people actually do this, what may be the reason behind marital rape?

To me...I didn't need to bring in bible or read about this to know that something like marital rape exist...nothing surprises me these days. I also didn't need Wiki to let me know it's a form of sexual/domestic abuse. I don't even know why a man would deem it fit to do that to his wife after hitting and verbally abusing her...according to my own personal research(lol...emmh, * research sounds deep though but this seems to be the most suitable word for me to use in this context), back to what I was saying, my findings show that most marital rape occurs after or during domestic abuse.

Well, this is just my own opinion, most people don't believe that marital rape exist and most women are too timid to even speak out(I would be too if I were married, I mean..how do I come to tell people I get beat up by my hubby, someone that is actually meant to protect me from harm..now to cap it up, to tell them I also get raped by him...damn!!! My parents would or may think I'm crazy. I do think my friends would reason with me cos they're sensible enough lol...but what about others? what about the church people/the 'holier than thous'/relatives?) I also think most women don't voice out what they go through(or had been through) cos they will be made jest of...with this modern computer age, the abused will so be roasted on all social media apps. She would wish she never said a word...and THIS is why most women die in silence.
 I guess the rising mortality due to domestic violence is starting to have a huge  impact all around the world. I'm happy most women are coming out now, I'm also grateful for the various organizations that have been set up to make the lives of the affected women better and give them a platform&voice to reach out to other timid/naive ones out there.

But what is the reason behind this? 

We've heard so many excuses from rapists saying they were tempted because of the appearance of the abused or that they happened to be at the wrong place or that the devil decided to use them on that fateful day or that whatever the flimsy excuses may be. But what excuse has a husband for raping the wife? Isn't coitus supposed to be part of marriage? Yes, but we ain't talking about a consensual act. Like I stated above, this disgusting act usually occurs before, during or after a domestic violence. I don't know what may be the reason behind it, I've no idea what may be in the man's mind. 

Well before I end this wonderful piece, I would also want to plead with men&women to please desist from hitting their partners, if you both can't talk it out then  go your separate ways...domestic violence is NEVER the answer and it instills fear in the abused...In my honest opinion, I don't think your partner is meant to be scared/afraid of you in a relationship...this doesn't equal RESPECT if that's what you culprits think.
   Finally, do you still think that marital rape is NOT real? Oh well, you can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink...that you believe it or not still won't change it from being the truth or that it exist.

Thanks for reading...